The Good Things.......

One of the good things... engagement night in Prague

People in mourning have to come to grips with death

before they can live again. Mourning can go on for years

and years. It doesn't end after one or two years;

that's a false fantasy. It usually ends when people

realize that they can live again,

that they can concentrate their energies

on their lives as a whole,

and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.

-Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The question before me, 

how can I incorporate my grief and loss,

so that it does not continue to dominate my life?
How can I get to that stage in my life

that it is no longer the first thing I think

of when I wake up in the morning,

or the last thing I relinquish before I sleep?

I heard a story where a child said to his mother,

in regard to the outpouring of kindness after his

father's death,

"There are so many good things,
There's just one bad thing."

There were an infinite amount of  good things

between Gaye and I.

 I was so blessed.

That "One Bad thing" will always be there,

but I pray everyday that it begins to take its

place among the infinitesimal good things so I can

appreciate and cherish the life I am experiencing.

I am doing my best baby.......

P.S.

I heard a widower the other day

say on his birthday about the prospect of getting old and

being alone.

"Just one day closer to seeing Mable"

-Referring to his late wife-

God, I love that.....